破碎的希望

她的眼睛仍然是无罪的，声音胆怯，但她的小手上有血。Khushi承认她杀了她的父亲，父亲让她的母亲遭受了多年的性虐待，并毫无理由地离开了她。这个16岁的女孩来自一个破碎的家庭，这个家庭由于紧张、不平等和某些困难而四分五裂。帕尔斯·沙阿以胡西为虚构的例子来说明家庭分裂的后果

现在有强有力的证据表明，对孩子来说，生活在不幸的婚姻中可能比分居或离婚要好得多，分居或离婚是青少年不当行为的原因。破碎的家庭导致缺乏父母的情感和安全感，以及缺乏家庭纽带。

父母o经常忽视这样一个事实，尽管彼此之间可能有rifts，但孩子们经常en依恋父母双方，看到他们最爱的两个人互相大喊大叫和咒骂，他们会承受很大的精神负担。在这一切之中，正在发育的心智暴露在濒临分裂的家庭的血淋淋的真相中。They reason that their parents have no time for them and they obviously realize that their lives and fights have become much more than the child’s life and needs.

想象一下，当你在玩耍的时候，又饿又渴又受伤地回家，听到你的父母对彼此大喊大叫和诅咒。They can’t be bothered to hear your worries and suddenly you seem worthless, realizing that you have none to care for. Your childhood goes about being a troubled one, domestic violence being uncommon, and then the split comes when the last straw falls.

孩子们只能和父母中的一个生活在一起，对另一个人隐瞒他们的爱，这是一个残酷的事实，令人心痛。此外，分离往往不会结束小规模冲突。Three out of four non- custodial parents said that aer putting their children through all this, they now wished they had never divorced. We need to get this message through to every family who are considering separation: it is abysmal to make your children chose the parent they love more. Just because the marriage doesn’t work out, your child need not have a rotten childhood. No caring parent wants their children to writhe and one must give it all to make the marriage work for the child if not for their better half.

The伤害和悲伤
来自破碎家庭的孩子们oen非常心烦意乱。他们隐藏着痛苦，他们独自哭泣
他们晚上在房间里做噩梦梦见父母摇摇欲坠的婚姻。可悲的是，他们无法分享自己的经历，许多人都非常努力地保持警惕，不让父母看到他们的痛苦。一些孩子对他们指责的破坏家庭的父母感到愤怒，通常对同性父母，普遍感到谴责的感觉。

错愕，羞愧ed但很少放心
一些人对他们的分离感到惊讶。另一些人则不好意思向他们的朋友提起这件不幸的事情。though divorce rates are rising, most marriages remain intact, as eight out of ten children live with a married couple and most children don’t want to be different. Also, some children are relieved by the split in the family as either one of the parent may have severe personality issues such as recklessness, an alcoholic or have subjected them to witnesses of verbal or domestic abuse on the other.

但大多数孩子希望双方和解。没有一个孩子责怪自己，但他们常常en很难跟上父母的步伐。They want the relationship to persist but for that approval has to gained from the guardian and it’s almost like scheduling an appointment which is very disheartening. Access to the other is difficult, even when arrangements work soundly and they frequently nose-dive with divergences or parents letting each other down.

e可能解
解决破裂家庭问题的第一个也是非常明显的事实是，每个家庭成员都承认存在问题，并同意解决问题是优先事项。This process starts by actively narrowing the communication gap between each one of them. Typically families become broken through a lack of communication or negative behaviour stemming from difference in thought or ways, so the resolution is to do the exact opposite, which is present positive communication.
由于对彼此潜在的负面情绪，一种策略是引入一个不偏向任何一方的第三方来促进沟通。
这些人，大多是咨询师或治疗师，在沟通中扮演调解人的角色。eir的重点是保持沟通指向解决方案。
最后一步是耐心。修复一个破碎的家庭需要有限的时间。父母需要确保孩子的学业没有受到干扰，他的学校生活没有受到无情的影响。
每个家庭都有自己的问题，但就像慈善一样，同情和责任也要从家庭开始。

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